Bad marriages ; Can they be avoided?

Who to marry? The choice is so important that if you miss it, you will will suffer for long, if you get it right then you will enjoy forever.

Marriage is not about what you want, it is about who you need that will make you better while you make him/her better. The subject of marriage is so important so many married people are hoping to be single again so as to make the right choice. If you are single like me please don’t just be in a hurry to get married, you have the best opportunity to prepare for it.

God has somebody for you but you must set your priorities right. God knows the best person for you. It is only wise to seek his will. Don’t marry for sex, don’t marry because you are getting old, don’t marry because you are lonely, don’t marry because you need someone to support you financially, don’t marry because you mistakenly got pregnant, don’t marry because of family pressures or you like the idea of marriage and admire every wedding gown you see. Above all don’t marry because all your friends are getting married. But get married because you want to fulfill destiny.

I strongly feel that marriage has never been, is not and will never be an achievement but staying happily married is the biggest achievement.

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Moral Decadence

Moral: Morality is the differentiation of intentions, decisions and actions between those that are distinguished as proper and those that are not proper. It can be a body of standards or principles derived from a code of conduct from a particular philosophy, religion or culture or it can derive from a standard that a person believes should be universal wikipedia

Decadence: refer to a perceived decay in standards, morals, dignity,religious faith or skill at governing among members of the elite of a very large social structure, a nation or state wikipedia

Done with the definitions. It have been long since i have posted something on my blog, today i decided to combine the two words Moral Decadence so that i can have something to write about. I have often come across people complaining that our generation “the youth” has loose morals compared to the older generation. to some extent i do agree with them. the elderly people talk about the good old days. The days were a lot of things we see or hear today was a taboo back then. The days were communities were united and and focused on being a community together.

The good old days were humans were more human and and different from animals, the good old days were children obeyed their elders and women were submissive to their true husbands. Every child was observed and nurtured in the community by the community, but it all started to fade gradually and now moral decadence in our society has reached such a level that calls for concern. Things have greatly changed in this generation compared to what it were in the past. I have observed that “hunhu/ubuntu” in general has decreased so much.

What used to be a safe community is no longer safe. Worry and fear have substituted peace and joy. Men sexually violate men and it’s human rights, people divorce as they wish and we also call it their right, children are molested and we call it marriage, prostitution is now called commercial sex work (what a lovely name hahaha). We are always trying to justify our bad behavior.  The systems that once served the community is the one molesting people.

Today you will find a 6 year old kid surfing the internet. you know what my generation was doing at the age of 6 playing outside without a clue what a selfie was. Don’t get me wrong am not saying modern technology and social media is wrong. I am worried about the exposure children nowadays have to internet and modern technology. Partially parents are to blame. It is important that they control the information that a child has access to especially during a time in their life when they can’t comprehend how to use it, the context in which it is used and the proper time and place to use it.

What really went wrong? Who is to blame for all this? Where were we when all this was happening? Where has such level of moral decadence came from in our society? These are the questions we might ask ourselves.

My main and worrying questions are: Should we be concerned? What can be done to correct what has already happened? We really need to go back to roots, get back the community what it used to be.

There Is Always Another Chance

We spend too much of our lives in the junkyard of regret. We focus on what might have been, could have been and should have been. Maybe we think that by replaying it enough we can change the outcome. But we can’t. The only thing you can control is what you do in the present. The more you replay yesterday, the further you get from today’s opportunities. And the further you move from today’s opportunities, the tougher the road back becomes. Opportunities never look as good coming as they do going. And they wait for no one, so you need to be attentive and grab them.

They come in many forms, and they can come from any direction. But one thing’s for certain: they can be seen and seized only in the present. Whatever has happened in your life, has happened. And since you can’t undo it no matter how hard you try, wipe the slate clean and go on to what’s next. We all make mistakes.

If we know the story of Jonah in the bible, Jonah’s mistake caused a storm that threatened the lives of everybody around him, and ended up taking him all the way to the bottom. But that’s not the end of his story: ‘From inside the fish Jonah prayed to…God…And the Lord commanded the fish, and it vomited Jonah onto dry land. Then the Word of the Lord came to Jonah a second time.’ ( Jonah 2:1 ;2:10–3:). He’s a God of second chances—and third, fourth, and fifth of million, billion, trillion, Zillion chance!

Born Unique

Why is it that the things that make one person happy, makes another person miserable? One may long to be out in nature – with complete silence – listening to the sounds that only God created. But the next person would be creeped out by that and they are much more comfortable in the midst of the hustle and bustle of the crowds of the big city.

Total opposite scenarios – but each brings happiness. Some love spicy foods and others prefer bland, unseasoned food. Some love to swim and others hate water. Not right or wrong – just how we are. That’s because God didn’t create us to be just the same – He made us to be uniquely different – so it is only natural that people are not all attracted to the same things.

Some people long for wealth, fame, power, marriage, or friendship, while others long for solitude, and a simple, no-stress life. If you are hungry for the wrong things – you will never be happy. Do what makes you happy. About all u can do in life is be who u are.

This is the day the Lord has made

There are two days in every week that we should not worry about, two days that should be kept free from fear and apprehension.

One is yesterday with its mistakes and cares. Its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back yesterday. We cannot undo a single act we performed. Nor can we erase a single word we’ve said. Yesterday is gone.

The other day we shouldn’t worry about is tomorrow. Tomorrow is beyond our control. Tomorrow’s sun will rise either in splendor, or behind a mask of clouds but it will rise. And until it does, we have no stake in tomorrow, for it is yet unborn.

This leaves only one day. Today. Any person can fight the battles of just one day. It is only when we add the burdens of yesterday and tomorrow that we break down. It is not the experience of today that drives people mad, it is the remorse of bitterness for something which happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring.

Here’s what God says about yesterday:

“…forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead.” (Phil.3:13)

“Forget the former things, do not dwell on the past.” (Isaiah 43:18)

Here’s what God says about tomorrow:

“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” (Matt.6:34)

“Do not boast about tomorrow for you do not know what a day may bring forth.” (Prov.27:1)

Here’s what God says about today:

“This is the day the Lord has made, I will rejoice and be glad in it.” (Psalm 118:24)


Whenever you are dealing with people, you must always remember that there is tomorrow and you might néed them tomorrow. You may end up needing help from the people who are asking for your help today, so help as much as you can.

Life is like moving wheel, sometimes you are up and sometimes you are down. Sometimes we destroy the bridges that we might need to help us cross back tomorrow. Sometimes we treat people as though there is never going to be tomorrow. We sometimes act as though we will never need help from anyone. Remember there’s tomorrow.

Joseph helped the cupbearer in prison and later the cupbearer connected Joseph with Pharaoh. Imagine how Portiphar’s wife felt when she heard that Joseph was now the Governor of Egypt, after she had falsely accused him. The brother who sold Joseph away ended up being fed by him. Don’t ever think of going to the extreme with your offenders, they might be rescuers tomorrow. Always remember that there is tomorrow and it will surely come.

The little help you give to people today, will profit you tomorrow.
May the good Lord touch your heart to live your life knowing that there is tomorrow.

In Everything You Do, Always Remember That,There Is Tomorrow.

Stop Surviving and Start Living- "Live life now"

Some people live in the past – always looking back at what ‘used to be,’ or wishing they could relive past experiences, either to correct their mistakes or just re-experience wonderful memories. Then there are those who live in the future – deciding that when they get the perfect job, find a spouse, have a baby, buy a house, or make a million dollars – ‘then’ . . . they will be happy! Waiting for happiness based on some milestone you want to accomplish in the future – will only make you miss out on all the joy that surrounds you “today.”

The best way to enjoy this journey here on earth is to live your life now – in the present – deciding to live each day as it comes. Smell the roses, breathe in fresh air, take in the beauty all around you, and appreciate the many blessings God gives you every day! If you are constantly living in the past OR the future – you’ll miss out on everyday pleasures of life that only God can give.

God wants you to live as if each day was your last – but plan for the future! There’s a big difference between ‘waiting for the future’ and ‘planning for the future.’ Live life . . .now – ‘in the present’

Stop Surviving and Start Living- “Live life now”

Some people live in the past – always looking back at what ‘used to be,’ or wishing they could relive past experiences, either to correct their mistakes or just re-experience wonderful memories. Then there are those who live in the future – deciding that when they get the perfect job, find a spouse, have a baby, buy a house, or make a million dollars – ‘then’ . . . they will be happy! Waiting for happiness based on some milestone you want to accomplish in the future – will only make you miss out on all the joy that surrounds you “today.”

The best way to enjoy this journey here on earth is to live your life now – in the present – deciding to live each day as it comes. Smell the roses, breathe in fresh air, take in the beauty all around you, and appreciate the many blessings God gives you every day! If you are constantly living in the past OR the future – you’ll miss out on everyday pleasures of life that only God can give.

God wants you to live as if each day was your last – but plan for the future! There’s a big difference between ‘waiting for the future’ and ‘planning for the future.’ Live life . . .now – ‘in the present’

Your Greatest Enemy is Yourself

Who killed Samson? Delilah or the Philistines? None of these options is correct. Permit me to tell you how

Even if there were 10,000 Philistine soldiers, they couldn’t have defeated Samson. Do you know why? Samson’s strength was not of this world; it was divine. As long as no one can defeat God, no army could have defeated Samson no matter how strong or many

Samson was raised a terror for the Philistines. He killed a lion with his bare hands, lifted the gate of a city on his shoulder and walked over 46 miles; he killed 300 Philistines soldiers with a jaw bone. What if he got a spear or sword?

So, who killed Samson? The answer is Samson. Yes! Samson killed himself! A man is his greatest enemy. What an enemy cannot do to a man, he would do to himself. Samson killed himself. He delivered himself to the lap of Delilah and used his own mouth to tell the secret of his power. His life promised so much but delivered so little

The Bible says, “People ruin their lives by their own stupidity, so why does GOD always get blamed?” (Proverbs 19:3. MSG)

Nobody can ruin your life except you do with your own hands. Although you can blame it on God or parents or government, you’re the architect of your life; you are your greatest enemy. Even if your grandparents had done any evil, until you press the trigger it won’t explode on your face

No Satan or witch has the power to destroy you no matter how much they hate you, you’re the only one who can kill yourself by your actions

When the enemies try in vain to kill you, they lie in wait and allow you to kill yourself by your actions.

Goliath, the champion couldn’t hurt David but adultery destroyed his family. The gentile nations couldn’t hurt Moses, but anger killed him. When king Jeroboam stretched his hand against the prophet, his hand dried up; he couldn’t hurt him, but his own disobedience turned him to a prey for a lion. Your greatest enemy isn’t outside there, it’s in you

Millions are killing themselves with their own mouth by what they eat and drink. Millions die of sexually transmitted diseases every year. Would you blame a witch for that?

Hundreds of thousands of divorce and breakup happen every year because people destroy their own marriages and homes with their own hands. Like Proverbs 14:1 says “Every wise woman builds her house, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands.

If you fail, don’t look far away, look inwards because what’s killing you is inside of you. What you yield yourself to will either kill or save you. If you continue yielding yourself to fornication, that’s what will kill you both spiritually or physically

Everyone has a seed of sin deposited in him through his Adamic nature. True repentance kills that seed but if you don’t kill that anger, pride, jealousy, greed, lust, it won’t just kill you in the future, it might have been killing you already. That’s why no matter how much people die of cancer and diabetics people won’t stop smoking and drinking because a man signs his own death warrant

Kill that seed before it kills you. Quit that habit, now! Because your greatest enemy isn’t a man or a spirit or Satan but you. Yes, You!




10 FEBRUARY 2018




MARK 10:46-52




  • The book of Mark wants to present Jesus as the Messiah of the whole world to the readers. This Jesus is also the savior of the families in this generation
  • Mark wrote this gospel also to help the Christians who were suffering persecution because of their faith so he wanted to encourage them. Thus one thirds of the book of Mark deals with the sufferings of Jesus. As families today we also need encouragement, they are many families today which are experiencing many challenges. Family conflicts are prevailing. There are some mothers who are being troubled by husbands who don’t come to church. There are many children who are being troubled by relatives who don’t come to church. We all need this Jesus of Mark who encourages us to march on even in difficult times in our families.


  • This is the last healing miracle by Jesus that Mark recorded. The passage presents Bartimaeus as a blind beggar siting near the road. Let’s imagine that Bartimaeus had a family, if his children could smile to him he could not see it, if his wife would put a new hairstyle or new dress, he would not see it, if his wife was happy or sad he could not see it, why because he was blind.
  • This problem of blindness is not limited to Bartimaeus only, it is existing in our families today. Those who are married, do you really know your spouse. It’s possible to live with someone for many years without knowing him. Do you really spend time with your husband or wife just to know and understand each other or we are blind about our spouses like Bartimaeus?
  • There are some who are blind to the strengths of their spouses, they only see what they do wrong. If I were to ask you to list down at least ten good things about your partner will you quickly do it or you just know and rehearse their weaknesses. It’s a form of blindness when you only see the bad things about someone without seeing the good things, may you join Bartimaeus in crying Lord help me that I might see
  • Our children do we really know them. Do we spend time with our children that we know who really they are their strength and weaknesses? Are there no other things that are distracting our attention so that we have no time for our families?
  • As children do we appreciate the gift of having parents who are alive and able to provide for us, or we take our parents for granted, we are blind to their importance and the advices that they give to us we see them as troubling us, may the Lord help our blindness.
  • How about our past. There are some who are now blind about their future because of what happened to them in the past. Some were cheated by boyfriend in church and they no longer want any relationship in church. Some are divorced or widowed and when they look to the future they see only darkness because they are blinded by past circumstances.
  • There is also spiritual blindness, there are some who don’t know Jesus, they have not yet received him as their Savior. They are blind to their need. They don’t see that without Jesus their families are heading to a dangerous pit ahead.
  • Heaven is blessing us each day and every month but when we are blind we cannot see anything good that God is doing for us, we won’t see any need to thank God, we will go through life complaining to God because we don’t see anything good from him. To such people who are spiritually blind they see no reason to thank God in their tithes because they are blind and cannot see any blessing in their lives, may the Lord help us that we might see.
  • When a person is able to cheat his spouse in marriage its because he as not yet seen Jesus. When you have seen him, you don’t consider giving to Jesus as wasting. So if you are cheating Jesus in the matter of tithes and offerings the problem is that you have not yet seen him, uchiri kuita wekutsvangadzira



  • In this passage when Bartimaeus knows that he is blind he begins to call to Jesus for help. He knows there is hope for him. There is hope for your children, there is hope for your husband, there is hope for your relatives, the purpose of this meeting today is that we came here to call to Jesus to come and rescue our families.
  • There is no problem in our families that is too difficult for Jesus to solve. Bartimaeus is the only person in the gospels who called Jesus the son of David. The crowds just called him a Nazarene. But as Bartimaeus is hearing the works of Jesus, he concludes that this man is a Messiah. The title son of David implies that he is the king. Whatever problem in our marriages lets surrender it to King Jesus. To those who are planning to enter into marriage, the best way to have a successful home is to make Jesus the King of your marriage. Is he the king in your home today?
  • As Bartimaeus begins to call the name of the Lord people drown his shouts with their noises. Today in our homes there are also some noises that are preventing us to interact with our children and spouses. These are the noises of social media, the noises of television programs, the noises of entertainment. Though they may not be bad in themselves, these noises can take most of our time that we must spend with our families.
  • There are also some noises that are preventing us to interact with Jesus. These can be noises of looking for riches. Noises of marital unfaithfulness, noises of sex before marriage, noises of gossip, noises of jealousy for other families, noises of competing with other families to the point of using tithe to buy properties, noises of consulting modern prophets. These noises have become our gods and are preventing us to connect with Jesus as families. When we cry out in prayer, our prayers will be in vain because they will be drowned by these noises. What is it that is preventing your connection with Jesus?
  • There are also some noises of being troubled because of the gospel in our families. Some are being troubled by their husbands because they are Adventists. Some you are the only person in your family who is an Adventist. Some of you your spouses don’t want you to return tithes and offerings. These can be noises that can prevent Bartimaeus to meet Jesus. But despite these noises Bartimaeus was not discouraged or deterred, he continued shouting, he knew his issue. Bartimaeus don’t give up you know you need Jesus. Don’t quit coming to church because of relatives, don’t stop returning tithes because of your spouse, stand firm Bartimaeus, continue to call to Jesus and your answer is coming.
  • Bartimaeus did not give up, even when it seemed that Jesus was not hearing his prayer he did not stop praying. So don’t give up in your family or on your children, continue calling unto the name of the Lord and he will hear your prayer. Don’t give up praying for your husband who is not coming to church, don’t give up praying for that child who went away.
  • Jesus begins to talk to him, when Jesus is talking to you, are you hearing his voice or there are things that are drowning his voice. When Bartimaeus hears the voice of the Lord , he leaves his garment, his source of protection up to this time. When we hear the voice of Jesus there are some garments that we must leave. What are the garments that you must leave so that your family can have a better life, is it a garment of gossip, is it a garment of not listening to parents, is it a garment of not taking care of the in-laws, is it a garment of cheating your wife, whatever the garment Bartimaeus, leave it and go to Jesus , that you may see
  • Jesus asks him what he can do for Bartimaeus, he responds Rabboni that I might see. Rabboni is a name which means Lord or Master. Bartimaeus desires that Jesus be the Lord of his life. This is the desire of Jesus in our families. He wants to be the Lord of our children, your family, your finances, may you allow him to be the Lord of your family today.
  • When Bartimaeus is restored his sight, he begins to follow Jesus. There are many people who after Jesus has done great things for them they forget him. The danger of forgetting also affects marriages, many forgot the little things that they used to remember in the early days when they fell in love. Bartimaeus don’t forget. Bartimaeus don’t forget this Jesus who lifted you to the position that you now have. May it be our commitment as families today that we will follow Jesus this year of 2018.


  • What is your blindness today, what is the blindness in your family, is it that you have not yet seen Jesus, is it that you have blindness in adultery, is it that you are blind in tithes and offerings, is it that you don’t see anything good in your wife or husband, is it that you don’t appreciate your parents, whatever your blindness , may you join Bartimaeus in crying “That I might see”






The aim of the lesson is  to help us to build a home, not just a house but to show ourselves  how to build a healthy home, we’re going to use the model of a house. There are some important pillars for the building of a home.


  • A strong family worships together. Joshua 24:15, Deuteronomy 6:7. Prayer must be daily life of a healthy home. What are some hindrances that can prevent family worship?
  • Nothing must be more important in our homes than time that we spend with the Lord
  • Family worship must not take long boring hours till children are sleepy, it must be attractive even to children.
  • A spiritual home must have a home library, there must be spiritual books and materials in the home that helps the home to be spiritually strong


  • Trust is strengthened when there is complete honesty in the home. Complete honesty includes:
  • Historical Honesty – There should nothing in your past that your spouse, or future spouse, does not know.
  • Emotional Honesty – You should be able to share your feelings with those in your family without fear.
  • Present Honesty – There should be no secrets as to where you are, who you are with, what you’re doing, etc.
  • Future Honesty – What are your goals and for future
  • Commitment means that both parties in marriage are committed to make the marriage to succeed. Both Partners must be willing to leave their parents. Each partner much leave the “I” life to take on the “we” life. Leaving involves two kinds of surgery:
  • Severing the cord of dependency: This means choosing not to rely on your parents for material or emotional support.
  • Severing the cord of allegiance: Before the wedding day, your most significant relationships are with your mother and father, but during that ceremony your priorities change. You should continue to honor your parents (Exodus 20:12), but your priority must now become your spouse. Your first and foremost loyalty is to your spouse.
  • What are some common ways that individuals fail to cut the cord of dependence after they are married?
  • Commitment also means both Partners must cleave to each other. The word “cleave” means to lean toward, or be joined to your partner. To cleave to your marriage partner “means to choose your spouse above others, even yourself. You cleave, lean toward, or join to your partner by meeting their needs, hearing their words, understanding their feelings, and desires.”




Communication is very important in our homes. We want to see three types of communicators in marriage and see which one is the best.

  1. Aggressive Communicators. This family communicates by being rude to one another. They are bossy overbearing people, and the words they use are selfish, accusing, and often volatile. Physical aggression may even be a characteristic of this nonfunctional family. Some members of the family never express their opinions out of fear of retaliation.
  2.  Passive Communicators. Communication is strained and rare in this family. Family members may be too shy or quiet and are often fearful of confrontation. Most often, there is apathy to the point that family members ignore each other or don’t care to communicate with one another.
  3.  Assertive Communicators. This family makes communication a priority. Family members are free to express opinions and ideas. They are calm, confident, and want to understand what others are saying and meaning. They listen and respond to each other in appropriate ways. Each family member strives to respect the feelings and thoughts of the others.


  • The most overlooked skill in communication is the art of listening. Successful families have learned that communication only works when members learn to listen to each other. Most people only listen in order to answer, attack, or defend. In fact, families are made up of basically four types of listeners
  1. The Judge. The judge is the person in the family who believes they are always right. Their mind is already made up, so they see no benefit in listening to others. This person is usually negative and critical. They voice their opinion instead of listening. Psalm 115:6 refers to this type of person. Complete the following verse. “They have ears, but they do not hear.”
  2.  The Counselor. The counselor listens only long enough to make a quick assessment and move on. This person is preoccupied with evaluating and offering advice that is usually not asked for. They accuse others of not listening. They only listen in order to dictate and tell others what should be done. Proverb 18:13 refers to this person: He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him.
  3. The Inquisitor. This person believes the way to listen is to constantly shoot questions at the other person or persons – something which can be tiresome and counterproductive. The inquisitor is prone to interrupt and is easily distracted. Asking questions in order to clarify understanding is important, but the inquisitor overdoes this tactic.
  4. The Good Listener. By far, the most effective listener in the family is the person who listens not only to the words being said, but who also tries to understand the feelings of the person-speaking. The listener pays close attention to body language, nonverbal signs, and facial expressions. The good listener is not judgmental of what is being said or how it is being expressed. The good listener’s desire is to understand and respond accordingly.

According to James 1:19, we should be quick to listen , and slow to speak , slow to anger.




If you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. (Matthew 6:15 NRSV)

What Forgiveness Is

  1.  Being aware of what someone has done and still forgiving them. Forgiveness is achieved only when we acknowledge what was done without any denial or covering up – and still refuse to make the offender pay for their crime. Forgiveness is often painful. It hurts to say goodbye to revenge.. Forgiveness is not forgetting what the other person did. Forgiveness is no longer holding that person accountable for the transgression.
  2. Choosing to keep no record of wrong. Love “keeps no record of wrongs” (1 Corinthians 13:5). Why do we keep track of the times we are offended? To use them. To prove what happened. To wave them before someone who doubts what actually happened. Love is a choice. Forgiveness is a choice. When we develop a lifestyle of forgiveness, we learn to erase the wrong rather than file it away in our mental computer.
  3. Refusing to punish. Refusing to punish those who deserve it – giving up the natural desire to see them “get what’s coming to them.” It is refusing to cave in to the fear that this person or those people won’t get the punishment or rebuke we think they deserve.
  4.  Not telling what they did. Anyone who truly forgives does not gossip about their offender. If you must tell someone, make sure that person is trustworthy and will never repeat your situation to those it does not concern.
  5. Forgiveness involves letting go. Remember playing tug-of-war as a child? As long as the parties on each end of the rope are tugging, you have a “war.” But when someone lets go, the war is over.














Claudio And Pamela Consuegra, ‘Building A Healthy Home’ in Reaching Families For Jesus: Discipleship And Service, General Conference, 2017, Ed Willie And Ellaine Oliver.


Willie And Ellaine Oliver. ‘What Do You Need From Jesus Today’ in Reaching Families For Jesus: Discipleship And Service. General Conference, 2017, Ed Willie And Ellaine Oliver.


Of The February Blog Challenge

Becoming The Muse

Hello February

February script

I rather like February, there’s something about it…. No it’s not about how the month is themed red, punctuated with hearts and strewn with flowers.


It’s not about how it’s been styled as the month of love, fodder for the creative mind, the poet who feeds equally on the broken hearted and the love struck; promises kept and promises broken.

Blind folded heart

It’s not because January is finally over. January seems to have way more days than any other month, it’s the Monday of months. Goodbye January, I won’t miss you.

I love February because I am a February baby, it’s written in the stars, poets are born in February. This when my New Year begins.

This year I decided to celebrate my month in style a little gift to my blog from me to me from my blog; feel free to reread that again from the…

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February mood

I am talking to you
You who is reading this poem
Don’t ask why I did this
It is the only way to get to you
I am not shy to face you
And tell you what is in my heart
But I am just good in writing
To convey the message from my heart
If you ever read this poem
Just know it was all about you
And being Feb the month of Love
I would be glad to know you better

Congratulations! You are now in paragraph 2
And Thank you for your valuable time
That you spent reading this poem
I am so much humbled by that
Now that we are at this stage
Let me tell you what is in my heart
From the deep bottom of my heart
I have always wished to know you
Sort of be very good friends
Get to know more about each other
Share some good times together
And when the right time comes
Cross the bridge when we get there

After we are on the other side of the bridge
I would be glad to love you girl
Love you from the bottom of my heart
Treat you like the princess you are
And make you the Queen of my life
I know this sounds like a dream
But I am determined to make it a reality
If you only choose to believe with me
And take that bold step
Of giving me a chance in your life
I know this is possible
And we can make it a reality

Ignorance Is Bliss 

More than 20 days into 2018, so far all going well. Too early to say I have achieved, I will achieve or I am yet to fail some or all of the resolutions I made for this year. When I made the resolutions, I forgot to add one of the most important new year resolution – to stop being ignorant. All this while I have been ignorant until I heard one of the elders I work with saying “ignorant is bliss”. It was then that I realised I might be treading in dangerous waters by being ignorant.

Ignorant may be bliss not to know when a tornado is coming because you have no need to worry or take action, but while your head is in the sand your bum is in the air, the tornado is still coming. If you looked up and faced it, disaster could have been avoided, but ignorance and denial always ensure that you get the full force and the most extreme consequences because it strike when least expected and you least prepared. We get stuck by disasters we could have avoided because we are both in denial and ignorant. We try to put ourselves in comfort zones by creating some sort of reality by our thoughts and actions. 

For every action or non-action there is a consequence. When we give our minds and our responsibility away by being ignorant we give our lives away. If enough of us do it we give the world away and that is precisely what we have been doing throughout known human history. This is why the few have always controlled masses. The only difference today is that the few are now manipulating the entire planet because of the globalisation of business, banking and communications. The foundation of that control has always been the same: keep the people in ignorance, fear and at war with themselves. Divide, rule and conquer while keeping the most important knowledge to yourself.

As for me and my house we have  stopped being ignorant so can you 


As free willed as we can be, with as much godly powers as bestowed upon us by the Most High, no-one has the power to choose when and where to be born. However, the fortunate thing is we can choose how we spend the little time spaced between birth and death. Much can be said and written but if men do not decide to act accordingly words are nothing but just words. Africa was tamed a dark continent not because light never shone but rather because man chose to be blind and live in darkness. The answer to the Zimbabwean question and problems lies nowhere except in we the Zimbabwean citizens.

Socrates once said an unexamined life is not worth leading. We were taught but we never learnt, at the very least we have become so perplexed with the mechanics forgetting the dynamics of every endeavour that we so find ourselves engaged in.

Politics has so polarised us yet the reason for it is to find common ground and co-exist to ease the burden of survival. A simple definition of politics is the system to determine who gets what, where and when. However, our system has become corrupt a few have perverted the whole system at the expense of the parochial masses who are not willing to get their heads out of the sand.

“You cannot solve a problem using the same mentality that you used when you got into trouble” to quote Albert Einstein. Corruption, cowardice and greed has become so embroiled in our moral fiber that we can even consider registering it as our national trademark. It takes two to fight, if one of the conflicting parties take flight there won’t be a strife to talk about. We all got sucked into an evil practice that saw untold suffering for almost two decades. Instead of focusing on the How do we get out everyone still is stuck up in trying to answer the how and why did we get here. Willingly and or unwillingly we all contributed to the downfall of this country and as such we all need to meet in different circles and clean up the mess. “iwe neni tine basa”

There are two kinds of people, those who just find themselves wet and those who feel the rain falling. We can’t continue just finding ourselves all socked up it’s time we feel the rain falling. The president and government can do so much but the rest lies in us the people. All that much we admire of the first world countries came as a result of them all wanting things done.

It’s time we let the spirit of Moses take us to a better land, not in England,not in South Africa but our motherland Zimbabwe. Here lie our forefathers, here they sang and danced with the spirit of Nehanda. Let’s rebuild the Great Zimbabwe, let’s refill the food basket of Africa.



On a lighter not I am not a politician nor am I a sociologist. Just a random thinker thinking out loud.

Cyber Threats And Our Governments

How safe are African governments from external influence given the rise of cyber threats? What can our government do to prevent being subject to external manipulation given that most of our information assets are gradually transiting online? Should we take investment in cyber security too seriously or should we simply keep government in traditional pen and paper mode for a while? The innocence of Africa states as far as cybersecurity is concerned could usher in a new form of colonisation.

Just read a story that the US chief of staff John Kelly had his phone hacked for months. At least they got to know. How about us here, does even the president or any of his close staff have encrypted communications? Or perhaps those are things that other big countries should worry about, we can have any spy with enough tech skills spying on us.

Obviously our national intelligence agency and the military have some form of reserved bandwidth for communication and external contractors where they buy some specialised communications equipment. But my question is are we in control here? Most of this modern equipment is somehow wired to internet for support and connectivity.

What’s your take?

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